Hayden and Layla's Place

A little bit of jealousy August 29, 2011

Filed under: Dad Blogs on Hayden,Dad Blogs on Layla — JDG @ 1:20 am
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Hayden is a really good big brother. He shares toys with Layla. He shows a general interest in her well being. Tries to make her laugh, etc. As I’ve mentioned many times in this blog he is also a big daddy’s boy. Well he does not want Layla to become a daddy’s girl!

If I show attention or affection to Layla he will immediately demand that I pay him the same attention. If I pick Layla up then Hayden will suddenly urgently need picking up too. “put Layla down and pick me up daddy”. A fit will ensue if I don’t oblige.

At night time I’ve started to put Layla to bed. This has also not gone down well with the little fella. “do me daddy, you need to do me, why are you doing Layla and not me”. So I’ve got accustomed to getting Layla to sleep quickly while I tell Hayden to play trains while he waits his turn. This works ok because I think trains are even higher in the Hayden totem pole than I am. Although some times eh will come into Layla’s room while I am trying to get her to sleep and make up some excuse just because he wants to make sure he is not missing out.

He has little elements of jealousy around toys and food. If Layla has something he suddenly wants it. I think that is the same as every child in the world. I guess I am just a really good toy!


Birthday Boy

Filed under: Dad Blogs on Hayden — JDG @ 1:18 am

Hayden is four! I almost typed finally four – in fact Kara was saying just the other day that she can’t believe that our little boy is four already, and my response is that I can’t believe he isn’t four already – we’ve been talking about his birthday since Christmas!! He has been so excited about it that it’s been “when I’m four …” and “for my birthday” etc, that it seems like it’s been a bit of a build up to the big day!!   I can certainly remember back before May when we were laying out the sequence of birthdays so he knew where his fell.  Also he knew in line with coming back from England it was his birthday. He just missed the bit that said there was going to be three weeks in between coming back and his actual birthday!

We were going to just do a low key birthday, but of course Hayden had other ideas and basically planned his own birthday party at Chuckie Cheese, with a cake and presents… so you’ll hear more about that later I’m sure.

Three was an interesting year for Hayden. He was a really good two year old, but when he hit three, he certainly become a but of a threeager.   He started to question why he had to do things, rather than just doing them. Started to learn the power of the tantrum in public and realize that while threats of having toys taken away wasn’t great, it wasn’t enough to sway whatever his particular argument was at the time. He also become a big daddy’s boy, to the point though that it’s a bit ridiculous at times, and certainly hard on Layla and Kara. Small example would be if I’m there, Hayden won’t let anyone else but me put him in and out of his car seat.  If it’s just me and Layla, then he’ll throw a fit if I try to do anything with Layla first. If I carry Layla he will suddenly need carrying. If I play with Layla, he will get himself in between us and insist I play with him. So he certainly became pretty testy. Certainly his relationship with Kara has gone under some good test as he loves to push her buttons and draw out her patience!  Luckily for him she has plenty!!

Of course, all of that is always instantly forgotten because he is also the sweetest and funniest little boy. He gives out hugs and kisses. He loves being tickled and just loves any play time with me or Kara. In fact I think he just loves attention. More than anything of course he loves Trains. His obsession about trains bleeds into everything he does, but it’s a healthy obsession as things like that go, and he gets so much joy out of just pushing his trains around we just leave him to it.

He still loves his routines.  Two books at bed time is just as important now as it’s every been.   He gets very upset if he can’t get his books, or songs, or even his bath.  These are the things he does, and he wants to know why if things are going to change.

I couldn’t imagine life without my little guy and can’t believe how fast he is growing.   But it is so much fun watching him grow up.  Love you Hayden!!


Can I Cry? August 25, 2011

Filed under: Mommy — karagoodwin @ 7:43 pm

Hayden does not like thunderstorms.  In particular, he does not like to be woken up by lightning and thunder.  We can get some pretty strong thunder storms in Indiana, and as it happens many of them pass through after he has gone to bed.  When he is awoken by thunder and lightning he will start crying, and John or I will go into his room to try to comfort him.  John likes to tell him the clouds are having a party.  I usually talk about how he is safe, his room is in a really protected part of the house, and I try to think of something that might make it less scary, like last night I put his quilt over his head and asked if he felt safer if he couldn’t see the lightning.  Usually, we just have to spend some time with him and he feels better.  But, naturally, he doesn’t want us to leave even once he has calmed down, so when we tell him we need to go back to our bed he will ask, “Can I cry?”  Bless his little heart.  We tell him of course he can cry if that makes him feel better, but we ask him to try to do it quietly so it doesn’t wake up Layla (otherwise he can really get wailing pretty loudly).  It is just so sweet how he will not be crying and he will ask us if it is ok to start, like he has it all planned out.

This asking permission to cry thing also sometimes works when we are out. There have been times when he has been on the verge of throwing a fit but I’ve asked him to just wait until we get home and then he can throw a big fit once we are there.  So now sometimes if he is unhappy about something when we are out he will pout about it and tell me that he wants to throw a fit when we get home.

Back to the storm – Layla is a pretty light sleeper, generally.  It seems like the slightest noises can wake her up.  Unless there is a huge storm with lightning and really loud thunder, in which case she will sleep soundly.  The only thing that really wakes her up in that scenario is Hayden crying.  Last night we had an incredibly loud storm come through.  The thunder and rain were so loud that even when John or I weren’t in Hayden’s room trying to comfort him it was still hard to sleep through it.  But we didn’t hear a sound from Layla all night.  Peculiar.


Happy birthday, Hayden! August 8, 2011

Filed under: Mummy On Hayden — karagoodwin @ 7:15 pm
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Hayden turned 4!  As John has written, he had big plans for what it would be like to be four, and I really have noticed a change in him.  He is already doing a better job of doing things by himself (eating, going potty, etc).  He also seems to be a little more agreeable.  Age three was a challenging age for us with Hayden.  He got to the natural developmental stage where he started testing his limits, so there was a lot of navigating to try to keep him from throwing a tantrum in public (sometimes we successfully navigated those waters, and other times we had to go into ABORT! mode).  He had a greater understanding that for any one scenario there were multiple options, and he did his best to protest if he didn’t like the option we chose.  But, already, I feel like we are not having to “talk him down” as much now that he is four.  I’m sure I just sealed my fate for a huge tantrum at some point today.

Here are some of the things about Hayden at three:

  • Started out at three loving cars.  Toy cars, race cars, cars on the road, Cars the movie, anything to do with cars.
  • The last few months his new thing is trains.  He is loving trains.  He was so excited when we went to England and he got to ride on real trains, as well as when we went to Colorado and we did various train-oriented things.  He got a bazillion train-related things for his birthday.
  • He does not like preschool.  He is always happy when I pick him up, but he never wants to go in the morning.  I remember never wanting to go to my babysitter when I was little.  Even though I liked her I would have rather stayed home.  So I understand, but it is sad, too.
  • He’s not hugely into sports at this stage.  He will kick a soccer ball around for a while with John, but hardly ever initiates it on his own.  He shows an interest in basketball, but hasn’t had a lot of opportunities to play.  He likes to play around with these toy golf clubs we have.  He’s taken gymnastics classes and swimming lessons and always been lukewarm about them.  He is going to be on a soccer team in the fall which John will coach, and I can’t WAIT for that!  It will be cool to see if he likes the element of a team sport.  We also plan to sign him up for basketball in the winter because whenever he sees people playing he wants to play.  And swim lessons start next week – not because he is interested but because John and I really feel it is time he learned how to swim, considering that he is around water a fair amount.
  • He loves to sing.  He often sings absentmindedly while he is playing.  My nephew asked me the other day while we were all at a water park why he sings so much.  I hadn’t even noticed, since I’m so used to it!
  • He loves macaroni and cheese.
  • He really loves his daddy.  He loves me, too, I think, but he has a really special bond with his daddy.  For the record, for the first 2 1/2 years he was a big mommy’s boy! 🙂
  • He loves Team Umizoomi.
  • Sometimes he can’t do things because his “hands are busy” (his hands are full).
  • He says “smorrow” instead of “tomorrow.”
  • He loves wearing shirts that have some sort of picture or cartoon on them.  It’s hard to get him to wear a regular shirt.

I can’t believe he is four already!  I still feel like he should be a newborn.  It’s been exciting watching him grow up, though.  Yesterday he was riding his bike that has training wheels, and he was so unsure at first.  John was helping him, and Hayden kept telling him be sure to hold him tight.  I was thinking it was so precious to see him learning to ride his bike, and it’s such a brief time in a person’s life that even as I was watching him I felt like I was already remembering it.  Time just goes too quickly.  I wish the kids could just stay my little people forever, but they keep getting older and bigger and I have to share them with more and more people.  Anyway, sure enough by the end of our walk with Hayden on his bike, he was zooming on up ahead of us, not worried about us holding on tight.

Love you, buddy.


When I’m FOUR! August 5, 2011

Filed under: Dad Blogs on Hayden — JDG @ 1:36 pm

We have been hearing about Hayden’s birthday for a long time now – from Hayden.  His mind is full of ideas of what is going to happen when he is four.   For a start he thinks he is going to break the house, because he is going to be so tall, that his head will bust through the roof.  He told me the other day that he was getting bigger already because it is almost four.    He will obviously be bigger than me when he is four.  He thinks that he can eat more ice cream, because – why not, he’s four!   He will start to use a grown up knife and fork, because that is what you do when you are four.   For about two years he hasn’t like Milk, he also told me that when he is four he is going to like Milk again.

We have also used this “when he is four” concept to tell him that there are a number of things that four years can’t do, and that he will have to do when he is four.  Some of them:

  • eat by himself (he has a very nice dad who seems to spoon feed him half of his meals!).
  • always go pee pee standing up (his potty will be confiscated on his fourth birthday!).
  • and go by himself
  • be a good boy.  bad boys aren’t allowed to be 4
  • dress himself
  • poop every day

I haven’t even mentioned the “i want this for my birthday”.  Every time he looks at a magazine or catalog he wants everything for his birthday.  He did this last year for Christmas and it’s been relentless since Christmas.  We just tell him to put it on his list.  The list is very long.  I think he will be disappointed at Birthday time!  And we start the count down to Christmas right now!