We’ve gone to the same day care since Hayden was less than three months old. We’ve had our ups and downs there – as you do with anything you stick with for 5+ years. Hayden in particular has had a few periods of time where he REALLY doesn’t want to go, and we’ve had to work with his teachers and sometimes the director to sort through the issues he’s had. Then he’s gotten back on track and we’ve coasted until we hit the next bump. I’ve felt that it is only fair to let them know whatever issues we are having and give them a chance to address them before we leave.
Lately he’s been having a tough time again. He is a gentle boy, and the boys in his class are pretty aggressive. He says every day that the boys are mean in his class. I’ve tried suggesting that maybe they are just playing, and pointed out how our dogs look like they are fighting when they play, but we know that even if it looks like they are trying to bite each other we know they are just screwing around. Even when viewing it through that lens, he still keeps coming back to them being mean, and I feel that he is old enough and sensible enough to know if something feels like play versus aggression.
So, we’ve decided to try a new preschool. I’ve toured this school before, in previous times of trouble with their current school. I’ve always been impressed but our issues have always been worked through at the other school so I’ve never ended up taking the plunge and transferring. Hayden is really excited about going to the new school. There is one boy in particular who he doesn’t like in his current class, and he asked John if we could make sure he doesn’t switch schools, too, so he doesn’t have to deal with him in his new class.
They’ll start at the beginning of next year. I’ll be off work for almost 2 weeks at the end of the year, so they only have one more day at their current school. Hayden was sweet yesterday. He said he wanted to get Carter – one of his classmates – a Christmas present. I asked if he was going to miss Carter when he switches schools, and he said yes that was why he wanted to get him a present, because “I’m Carter’s best friend.” I was glad to hear that he feels like he has a friend there right now. That was another thing that has been bothering me about how things are going there right now – not only does he think the boys are “mean,” he doesn’t really seem to have any friends. He was always excited to play with Oliver last year, but he’s now in Kindergarten at the public school. When we first started back after the summer he was talking about Carter a lot and they seemed to be good friends, but when all this physicality started he was even saying Carter’s name when we were asking who was being “mean.”
So, here’s to change! Let’s hope it’s a good one!