Famous words right! But as we were heading to bed on Thursday May 20th those were the words of my lovely wife. It was exactly two weeks before the due date, and an early baby had never really entered my mind, and I didn’t really accept what she was telling me. I figured this was just one of those false labor signs or something and when she called the hospital either they would tell us not to come in, or just send us home once we got there. Well apparently I was wrong….. The water breaks you are coming in and you are having a baby within the next day or so.
We called in Grandma to take care of Hayden, we were both pretty calm considering (I think for me mainly because I was in denial!). Kara took a shower and I got everything ready and loaded up the car. Got to the hospital and checked in and got our room after a short stint in the triage room. It was all a little surreal and unexpected for me. With Hayden’s birth we went into the triage room, and after the attempt to shift him from his breach position, it was straight to the cesarean. So this was new territory. I think the reason for the surreal feelings were more related to the fact I was still in denial that there was a baby coming sometime soon!! It was also strange because Kara wasn’t getting any contractions yet!!
We were both getting pretty tired and as nothing was really happening we tried to get some rest, but it seemed every time we laid down a nurse would come in and check something. I think Kara got a little bit of sleep but I’m a terrible sleeper outside of my bed so nothing for me, which I would regret later! It didn’t take too long for Kara’s contractions to start and then sleep was out of the question. I felt pretty useless early on. It was obvious she could pretty just shake these contractions off with a little bit of breathing so I tried to offer up the odd hair tickle and back massage.
I’m not sure at what point the change happened but there become a clear point at which Kara suddenly started to really feel things and then I started to get really really useless. I wanted to help and kept asking what I could do, where I could put pressure, and try to help with the breathing but I seemed to forget everything I’d read in my book! Luckily Kara was a rock star and toughed out a lot of pain. It’s hard seeing her in such pain though, it’s a real bitter sweet thing. You know the pain means progress, but it seemed to just sap all her energy and hard to watch. I have nothing to compare it with, and I don’t know how it feels, but I know for sure it hurts a lot!! Because of the time of the water breaking (10.30pm) we missed a night’s sleep and I could see that Kara was starting to get really tired and low on energy. I think it was the right thing to do when she asked for the epidural, it was a shame it took probably 30 minutes from asking for it, until when it started to take effect as those seemed the toughest and most painful contractions of the lot. At that point she was somewhere around the 8cm dilated mark. I was very proud of her.
As soon as the drugs kicked in the difference was unbelievable. To the point where she took a 90 minute nap!! It was funny watching her sleep and then see on the monitor she was having large contractions. The contrasts is amazing! The next thing we knew the nurse woke up Kara, checked her, and it was time to push!! That last hour or two just slipped away and now the baby was ready.
Kara was a natural at the pushing. It seemed to be over so quickly and suddenly we had Layla!! I can’t believe I’m going to put this in writing but as soon as she was born I was so convinced that it was Hayden mark two. All that hair and it just looked like him. I automatically thought she was a boy and said that she looked like a boy. When Dr Moon tipped her over and told me/showed me it was a girl I almost hit the floor. I was overjoyed but just shocked. We had gone back and forth about finding out, but I’m so glad we didn’t.
With Hayden because he was breached we were unfortunate that Kara had to have a cesarean. I say unfortunate, there is nothing unfortunate about Hayden and Kara’s doctor is fantastic and cesarean was a big success, just because Kara really wanted to have that “birth experience”, and as I realized after Layla’s birth so did I!! There is nothing, and I mean nothing, like seeing your princess give birth to another little princess. Seeing Layla being born is something that will never ever leave me. I also feel so privileged to be a part of the birth. Obviously Kara did all the hard work, but I was at least able to help and support and be real close, and really felt a part of it, something you lose with the cesarean. I can’t imagine what it would have been liked in the old days when I couldn’t be there. I wouldn’t want to have missed this for the world. My wife is a rock star, and Layla is a true little princess!