Hayden and Layla's Place

A little bit of jealousy August 29, 2011

Filed under: Dad Blogs on Hayden,Dad Blogs on Layla — JDG @ 1:20 am
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Hayden is a really good big brother. He shares toys with Layla. He shows a general interest in her well being. Tries to make her laugh, etc. As I’ve mentioned many times in this blog he is also a big daddy’s boy. Well he does not want Layla to become a daddy’s girl!

If I show attention or affection to Layla he will immediately demand that I pay him the same attention. If I pick Layla up then Hayden will suddenly urgently need picking up too. “put Layla down and pick me up daddy”. A fit will ensue if I don’t oblige.

At night time I’ve started to put Layla to bed. This has also not gone down well with the little fella. “do me daddy, you need to do me, why are you doing Layla and not me”. So I’ve got accustomed to getting Layla to sleep quickly while I tell Hayden to play trains while he waits his turn. This works ok because I think trains are even higher in the Hayden totem pole than I am. Although some times eh will come into Layla’s room while I am trying to get her to sleep and make up some excuse just because he wants to make sure he is not missing out.

He has little elements of jealousy around toys and food. If Layla has something he suddenly wants it. I think that is the same as every child in the world. I guess I am just a really good toy!

 

Hey, Jealousy July 25, 2011

Filed under: Mommy — karagoodwin @ 4:10 pm
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I’m sure we’ve mentioned before that Hayden gets jealous of Layla pretty easily, particularly when it comes to Daddy time. He also immediately becomes interested in pretty much any toy she has taken an interest in. The girl stands up for herself though, and from the time she has been old enough to be interested in a toy, Hayden has been taking that toy away from her, and she has sidled up to him and bitten him! This has been going on for weeks, and I have no idea where she even came up with biting. I would love to blame it on day care (that is where Hayden learned it when he was a toddler), but when she started doing it the other babies in her room were too little to even be getting around, much less biting.  She does get in trouble when she bites, and now Hayden is known for taking a toy from her and then putting his hand right in front of her mouth to try to make her bite him so she will get in trouble!

So anyway, back to the jealousy front… Layla has now become jealous as well!  She will cry if I hold Hayden or have him on my lap, and she will scoot right on over to us and even tried to bite me once.  Apparently our kids feel a definite ownership over me and John currently: Hayden thinks John is his and Layla thinks I am hers.  We do what we can to try to get them used to the fact that we are both their parents, and most of the time there is harmony, but the green eyed monster rears its head often enough to make it noteworthy!